Printable PDF · 25 pages · US$12
Before You Say Yes — The Toolkit
You're kind, capable and reliable. That's why everyone asks you first.
The Toolkit helps you put a small, sensible gap between being asked and answering. It's designed to help you choose the yeses you mean, and find kind, clear words when your answer is no.
Who it's for
Women who say yes too quickly: at work, with money, with family and with friends, and who want practical words and a simple routine for choosing their answers.
It builds on the free Before You Say Yes guide. The guide's Four Questions and some of its lines appear again here, expanded. Most of the Toolkit is new.
US$12
- Format
- 25-page A4 PDF. Read it on your phone, tablet or computer, or print it.
- You'll need
- A device that can open PDF files. Printing is optional.
- Delivery
- Instant download after checkout, with a download link emailed to you.
- Language
- English (UK spelling)
- Licence
- Personal use only
- Checkout
- Secure checkout through Payhip. Your card details go to the payment provider, never to this website.
Tax: any VAT or sales tax that applies is included in the US$12 and shown at checkout, so the total you see before paying is what you pay.
What you get, in seven short parts
- Notice. The six common reasons the yes comes out so fast, with two worksheets: The Yes Audit and My pressure points.
- Pause. Ten lines that buy you time without sounding rude, plus what to do with the guilt you feel afterwards.
- Decide. The Four Questions, the Real Cost check (time, money, energy, what it pushes out, how often) and the Decision Filter worksheet.
- Say it. 32 word-for-word scripts: 8 for work, 6 for money, 6 for family, 6 for friends and social life, and 6 for a yes on your own terms.
- Hold it. Six calm replies for when people push back, the "broken record" technique, and three habits that weaken a no.
- Undo. Four steps and three scripts for taking back a yes gracefully.
- Practise. A seven-day plan with a short exercise each day.
Two more worksheets finish it off: a Script builder and a Weekly reflection.
In numbers: 51 word-for-word lines, 5 worksheets, 1 Real Cost check and a 7-day plan.
Good to know
- It's an instant digital download. No subscription, and no physical product.
- It gives general ideas for everyday communication. It isn't professional, legal, financial, medical or psychological advice, and it isn't meant for situations involving threats or feeling unsafe.
- Vivienne Hart is a fictional character whose image and voice are created with AI tools. Her channel and guides are written and managed by a real person.
- Sold by Jonathan Pretorius, trading as Vivienne Hart. See the purchase terms, cancellation and refunds before you buy.